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Do you ever get frustrated with your children for defiant behavior?

Do you ever get frustrated with your children for defiant behavior? Chances are that you and your spouse are not on the same page when it comes to discipline. Consistent boundaries are the key to good behavior.

Just think back to when you were a kid or maybe even now. You knew which parent to go to, in order to get what you wanted. Children are the masters of manipulation; we can all laugh because we understand this to be true. Children are testing and learning boundaries all the time. They can turn on the charm, tears and or temper tantrums to get what they want. The human brain is so small and the most unique part of the human body. Researchers show that the human brain can before the age of 5 can learn up to thirty different languages.

Children need boundaries. When God designed mankind he set him in the Garden of Eden. God set boundaries from the beginning. The problem begins when we as parents do not set boundaries for our children from the beginning. The bible says even a child is known by his doings. Children are very intelligent and quickly learn what is acceptable with appropriate boundaries set in place. As parents, we want to teach our children the way they are to go.

Now for the how to set boundaries; what you have been waiting for. Setting boundaries require setting expectations of what behavior you are wanting. For example, if you have a 3 year old that has a problem with hitting and anger more than likely he has a communication issue and has learned that hitting gets him results. Many times little one hit because they are being hit. To correct behavior you explain to child that hitting hurts and that they need to tell you what they want. Please keep in mind that children are self-centered and want everything sharing is not a concept that they understand yet until they are older. So what you do is model taking turns. Children do as you do and not as you say. The expectation is being set then also you explain the consequences for inappropriate behavior. Consequences for inappropriate behavior help guide children’s heart. Consequences are discussed in the beginning with the expectations. Following through with the process is where most parents fail. Some parents will feel guilt because of their personal upbringing or perhaps other issues. If you follow the process of boundaries, setting expectations, modeling the behavior, and following through with consequences I can reassure that you will see your child heart change, and then the behavior will change. It is a process and it will take some time. If you stick to the process you can usually see results within 2 to 3 weeks.

One last thing to remember is through the process to share lots of love and affirmation with your children to give them a sense of security while you are setting your boundaries, this will help keep their hearts feeling safe and assist in the learning process.

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Mrs. Ivette Mendez | Director of Heart of a Child Learning Center.

Website: www.hoclearningcenter.com


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